Begin to Court Your Husband...Once Again!
I watched a programme recently during
which the presenter arranged a date for a couple married for ten years. The
story is that the couple hardly had time for each other, not to mention a romantic
outing for two. So the presenter decided to take the ‘dinner date’ to the
couple’s house with the entire works- candle lit, wine, delicious food, roses,
soft music. The couple had a fabulous and enjoyable dinner, read each other
love poems, danced cheek- to-cheek, and of course capped it with once in a
lifetime lovemaking.
The hard truth is that most couples early
courting days were filled with romantic moments, as they swoon over each other,
and can’t keep their hands off. Marriage came in, honeymoon ended, babies came
or didn’t come. Soon other pastimes took over with no time left do those things
they used to do when courting.
The fact is so glaring that many women
live a life of work, meetings, children, and housekeeping. There is little or no time left to feed
properly talk less of stepping back into
early courting days just to relive those romantic experience with their
spouses. I bet most women will agree
that they let other activities take priority over sexual intimacy in their
lives.
So sisters, it’s about time you ponder
on a really hot outing this Saturday with your sweetheart, who is no other than
your husband of course. You don’t have the time? Yes you do. All you got to do is prioritise. Too old to
start dating? Oh no you’re not. What has age got to do with it? Romance is for
everyone. It doesn’t matter whether you’re 25 or 70 something; romance doesn’t
just happen on its own, it has to be developed and nurtured.
It’s
not the children’s fault
Like someone said, couples should make
time for each other and stop blaming the children for lack of intimacy in their
lives. If you don’t build romance into your lives now, what happens when the
children grow up and leave? Then what? The struggle to reconnect starts big
time as you try to pick the pieces where you left off say ten, twenty,
maybe even thirty years ago. And since a strong foundation for friendship was
not laid earlier on, there’s room for failure. Admit we are family oriented
making us accept our children’s dependency as the norm for parenthood; nonetheless
it won’t be out of place if parents spend quiet time alone with each other.
Many couples don’t even know the last
time they went on a date together or, worse still, taken the children out on a picnic or to the cinema for family bonding. A romantic time with each other is what relationship is all
about, not just a once in a while specks of romance.
Relationship experts recommend that
couples should begin ‘two- only’ night date to usher in the opportunity to enjoy
each other's company, without any disruptions from the children. Showing more
interest in each other and being up to date on what’s happening in each other’s
lives will have a positive impact on relationship, since going out together is
more powerful than therapy sessions.
It
shouldn’t be complicated
An extravagant evening won’t be a bad
idea, but not necessarily the only way to guarantee a good time. Here are some
simple strategies you can try with your spouse:
·
Every Saturday night, go to your
bedroom an hour earlier, after the children are settled. Take a cup of cocoa or
glass of wine, and reconnect with each other by relieving beautiful memories –
laugh, jab each other lovingly – completely relaxed with each other, and let
Mother Nature takes its course.
·
If on the other hand you decide to go
out on a night date, your nanny or a family member can look after your children,
or you can drop them off at a friendly neighbour’s house if willing to take
them of course. But be ready to reciprocate the kind gesture.
·
In the afternoon, take a long walk
(hand in hand) in the local park, or just around the neighborhood.
·
Stop over at a coffee shop or local
restaurant, with a very comfy and peaceful environment, where both of you can
relax and talk over a cup of coffee or as you nibble some nutritious snack.
·
Make every Saturday morning a fitness
time. Drive to a park with breathtaking scenery like trees and mountains or
with a lake view. Jog round, do aerobics, and generally have a fun time OR you may just decide a picnic just for the two of you it is.
How
frequently you plan these ‘two only’ outings is entirely your choice and in
line with your lifestyle. Some couples can only do a once a week outing, others
can only do once a fortnight, and as a matter of fact some can only manage it
once every four weeks. How many times you go out shouldn’t be the focus but the
quality spent together. Also remember it doesn’t have to be all a night outing.
Afternoons are just as great; so long it is quality time together. Making the
effort to reconnect with your partner is the most important part of preserving
a loving and fulfilling relationship.
Love
also comes in small doses
There are other ways to reconnect than
romantic night outings. Remove the garb of seriousness and replace it with a
playful spirit that sparks up a romantic connection. Seduce each other, use
endearing names, or make admiring comment to one another on a daily basis. Envisage that your spouse is someone you have
just started courting, then express your affection and delight for him or her
whichever way suits you through email
and mobile phones.
Once you decide on a
renewed ‘courtship’ with your spouse, this will help you develop a healthy
relationship. And when you’re going out
on a courtship outing, get involved with activities that you like to do and reflect
who you both are. Since it’s assumed you got involved with someone who loves
life and pursues happiness the way you do, with the best intentions, you’ll be
relieving those romantic moments every day.
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